Hola Mi Amor!

Hola Mi Amor!

It’s amazing how through maturing in my personal, professional and spiritual growth, how “my list” has changed. You know that list. If you don’t have one right now I bet you have had one at some point in time. The one that has all of the qualities and characteristics that you want your partner to have!

I remember, he was going to be: 6’5″ – wait let me explain LOL. You see, only a few people know that I was actually SUPPOSED to be 6’3″ and play in the WNBA, but I drank too much coffee as a kid because I had to work the coffee bar (breakfast) at church every Sunday with my Mami. (LMBO!!!) I really have told that story my whole life! I’m sure it has NOTHING to do with my Mamacita standing at all of 4’10.5″ LOL!

Okay, my bad. Now back to my list! So obviously he’s tall, dark and handsome. Athlethic build and he had to be an athlete- not just look like it. He’s smart, successful and has nice hair. He’d drive a cool car, be fun and of course love me to name a few things. He has to be a good person, but a bad boy for real for real. Now all of these things are cool, but what happens when these things start to change?! And let’s say I did get all of this- then what?!

Thank God that I have grown and my list has as well. A few weeks ago I was listening to the Full Transparency podcast with Host Donni Wiggins and her guest Latteras R. Whitfield. Now I always watch Dear Future Wifey, so when I saw Latteras was being interviewed I wanted to hear how he did on the other side. It was a great interview. What really resonated with me though was when they were talking about the lists of desires for/in their future spouse.

Now mind you, my last relationship started in 2013 and lasted for 7 years + it became a true situationship about close to two years after I had broken up with him. I won’t get into that, but I will share that historically in my two longest relationships, this being the longest, I’ve played the whole “wifey” role without a few of the very important marriage commitments. I put up with lying, cheating, abuse and so on. But baby- now that I have worked so diligently on my healing journey, there is no way I will go back to dealing with any of those behaviors! No ma’am. No sir!

When I did become single-single again after cutting off the situationship I became saved-saved LOL. I can no longer have a man that is preying on me, but must have a man that prays for me, prays with me and keeps me covered! Not the covered as in hidden and no one knows we’re together, I’m talking about constantly covered in prayer. Can I get an Amen?!

Thinking back to the approximately 6 years I was single from 2007 to 2013 and I was very much so (in hindsight) overly involved at my church, I did have a couple love interests who were- no let me say, they went to church lol. They know Jesus. But even these men were on some bull. So I did start to think why should I even try to date a man of God if he’s gonna act just like the next man that doesn’t go to church?

So here I am, now my most whole and healed self at 42 years old. I’m still a single Mami- never engaged, never married-married, but I’ve been a “wifey” two times for a combined 12+ years. Yeah, so my new 2024 Mr. Right: My Love List has evolved into something much deeper, detailed and greater than any list I’ve ever come up with before. Interestingly enough I created my list on Tuesday, August 13th and yesterday which was exactly one week later (completely not intentionally) I also wrote a list that describes who I am and what I bring to a relationship.

These are the two longest lists I’ve ever made concerning the desired qualities of my future spouse and describing myself. His list came to 92 and mine is 123 but since I put multiple on several lines it’s probably closer to at least 140! Ultimately although I wrote out these extremely long descripters, all I truly want is God’s will for me relationally and who He’s created for me. I’m just out here a whole rib not dating, but waiting on my man, My man, My Man! LOL I’m too anointed to go backwards or to be playing games. I’m a wife.

God’s Hands. God’s Plan.

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